sim parents about the Nanny service
14, 2004 - by Ursull S. Swims, baby specialist
would never recommend to any parents to hire a nanny. But I do realize
that some times a parent don't have a choice but hiring a nanny. So here
is finally my long awaited nanny advice article!
there for your child is one of the beautiful gifts of life. I have raised
four lovely children myself, and I would never dream of giving away that
treasure of a gift to a Nanny, a Health Visitor or a Butler - total strangers!
They would probably do a satisfying job meaning a child will grow up while
parents can still go to work daily. But what is there in it for the child?
Will the child be able to build on that nursing contact later in childhood?
Will the child feel as comfortable with its true parents as if they did
the nursing? As a mother I am quite narrow minded on this subject, I always
wanted to protect what I see as the baby's rights!
doubts are many, but because I do not have a fifth baby I was not able
to test the Nanny service. So, a year ago I asked for other sims to help
me by sharing their experience. And the response was enormous! This service
is definitely more popular than I like to admit. Below are just some of
the many letters I received. You will be happy to know that there are both
positive and negative conclusions, so the choice is still very much your
not publish any more comments on this case, but look out for my new column
starting this Spring, where any baby related questions can be asked.
|Tamster: It lacks
the parental bliss!
I have had the nanny from
Cheapfrills for some time now. While it allows my sims to have the
freedom and ease of continuing on with their lives, it lacks the parental
bliss of caring for the youngster (not to mention the baby almost always
comes in the light skin tone regardless of parents' complexion) and losing
sleep over it. All in all, I have kept the nanny in my "little black
book" for those times when I just have to have a little one and never
want it to grow up!
I need a nanny!
Yes! Nanny, definately.
I find myself always having to quit jobs just to take care of the baby.
If it is possible to have a nanny, I would like to know how.
|Emma: She's a
I downloaded the nanny and
it works great. I only can see the hands though. The nanny is great and
she looks after you baby. When I don't look after my child because I'm
at work or busy she will come around and help me raise my child. She's
a miracle Worker!
need a nanny 'cause I'm a bad parent!
I really need a nanny for
my babies! We are not good parents and I really really need someone to
help me take care of the baby! Everytime i go to sleep the baby always
ends up crying and crying and we get so mad and don't take care of him/her.
We fall asleep on the floor right next to the cradle! I hope u help me
and help me get a nanny for my sim children! thank you for all your time!
I know this does not seem like a report but please help me!
|Carleena: A nanny
will improve our life styles!
Dear Mrs. Swims. Everytime
I try to hire a nanny nothing works on
Cheapfrills. It just dosen't
work. I know it is not just me because a neighbor tried, too. Now I know
you don't prefer hireing a nanny but with 2 kids and planning to have another
one and both me and my husbands' careers taking off it is hard and i want
to make it better. I mean my husband works nights I work days. We spend
a lot of time together and with our kids. My oldest comes home from school
and his brother is messing up the house, my husband is sleeping, Alex dosen't
study. Then my husband will wake up because there so loud, then I come
home and everyone is in a bad mood. It is great having family day I just
think having a nanny will improve our life styles. Thank you.
|June: I can't
believe people want that Nanny!!
The nanny made one of my
baby taken away from me by a social worker. I can't believe people still
want that nanny.
|Ilana: I can't
believe people want that Nanny!
My nanny didn't come what
Nanny did a professional job!
I hired the nanny for my
adopted child, Stephanie, because I could not afford to lose my job. The
nanny did a very professional and respectable job.
|Amelia: Get the
Dear Ursull S. Swims. Do
you mean the adoptable baby, that comes with the health visitor? If you
do, I have got that already and the health visitor only comes if your kid
has been crying loads!
I do know how you can tend
to your baby more easily, though... go to www.trollsims.co.uk and get the
baby monitor and tv from the electronics department, and when the baby
cries, you will go to it automatically! Hope this helps everone on your
|Lucie: The buttler
was too old and slow!
I'm a young mother name
Lucie and my husbond Ville is a famous singer... to try to make my job
as a housewife a bit easier we decided to hire a buttler who'll also take
care of the baby... the buttler does take care of the child, but it seemed
heartbreaking to me to see how long it might take before the buttler responded
to the cry of my daughter... besides, the Buttlers are old and he would
cough into the cradle of my dear Lucretia... I fired him right away and
took care of my child on my own... I cannot recommend it.
Nanny service really helped me!
I was married for 20 days
before my husband and I both agreed to have a child - he was very dedicated
to his work and i couldn't stay at home with our new baby as we needed
the money - espeacailly as we had a new mouth to feed. Eventually the enevitable
happened - a social worker took our child. Shortly after my husband had
an afair and moved in with his mistress whilst we started on divorce proceduers.
I found my self living alone and i missed my child (whom i never saw grow
up). Then when i had enough money i adopted my now daughter Chloe. She
is my whole life. When i adopted her i couldn't afford to leave my job
and i didn't want to be fired so i had the nanny sevice come and look after
her while i couldn't. It wasn't like that all the time when i was home
i would look after her - i often went to work hungry, tired and uncomfortable
- but i went and i kept my job and i made money which helped me to build
Chloe her bedroom. We are the closest mother and daughter. The Nanny service
really helped me.
Nanny? Under no circumstances!
I work very hard in the
medical field and my husband is an aspiring athlete and so when our third
baby arrived just this past week we decided that this time we would try
the new nanny service we've all been hearing about. Well, the child
was well cared for, that much is true. We could go to work and not
have to worry about the Social Services taking our little boy, but when
he grew out of his infant stage we discovered that unlike our other children,
we didn't have a 50/50 relationship with him. In fact he didn't like
us very much at all and his behavior towards his siblings was atrocious.
After a while he refused any social interactions we tried and eventually
due to his truancy, had to be sent away to military school. My advice
to you, if you plan on having babies, make sure there is at least one parent
willing to sacrifice career and stay at home. If not try a daily
trade off on who misses work, but under no circumstances should anyone
ever hire a nanny as it can be detrimental to family development and bonding.
#9 Simburry Lane
Crow View Valley
|Mrs Trent: Nanny
service is easy to use!
Hi my name is Tia Marie
Trent I use the the nanny service and found it easy to use. With the new
hows the baby option I knew exactly what my little Johnathan needed.
|McWindle: A very
Dear Mrs. Swims, we are
faithful readers of the Simmerville website, as we find it is a wonderful
way to keep up with the world beyond our neighborhood.
We noticed that you had
asked for Sims to report their experiences with the Cheap Frills Nanny.
We adopted our son Mazo in this way, and know several other Sims who have
worked with this agency. All of us agree that it is a very satisfactory
service. Our children are normal, happy and healthy, and thanks to
the Health Worker's visits none of us has lost a baby to the social worker
due to unforeseen accidents.
When adopting a baby in this
way, the Health Worker assigned to your household in no way takes over
the parents' job. You can still play and look after your child and
give it all the love it needs, and the Health Worker will only stop by
if she hears that you are having difficulties. Our Health Worker, Maude,
was very helpful and understanding. She stopped by on Day 2, while
Ella was exhausted from moving and Kathie-Anne was at work, and was a real
The only drawback we have
noticed is that our babies tend to be bad conversationalists when they
first grow up to be children. Unlike regular children, they are sometimes
born with no special interests at all. However, we find that ordering
an inexpensive magazine rack from http://www.c-and-c-enterprises.com/ fixes
that problem right up -- kids love reading magazines and quickly develop
In short, we would recommend
the Cheap Frills adoption service for any Sims who have had trouble raising
children in the regular way.
Ella and Kathie-Anne McWindle
#9 Sim Lane, Bohemia-on-Syme
|Mrs Hick: If
you want a baby, look after it!
My name is Mrs Hick. I have
written to make a little moan about the nanny service. I have not tried
the nanny service myself but if people really want a baby then they should
sort something out before the baby arrives so that one parent could look
after the baby. Also is you want a baby then you should be bothered to
look after it. I understand that there are alot of parents who have good
excuses for hiring a nanny, but then again there are parents who just can`t
be bothered to look after the baby. If you ask me, parents should have
a child and then when it is a kid they should find a job then.
Yours sincerely Mrs Hick
(who hopes to have a baby soon)!
|Jade: I regret
using the nanny service!
Hello. I am a mother
of two. My second child, Louisa, had the nanny and i have to say it did
help ME. But it only helped me. Yes i was able to keep my job, go downtown,
cook, sleep and take care of my son. But when little lousia grew
up, she may aswell have been a stranger. I poured love onto her, but she
never seemed to like me. Always asking for her 'nanni-mum' i was devasted.
She also neglected her studies and skipped school. Soon the military decided
to take her. I regret using the nanny service and i miss my daughter greatly.
Black couple got a white baby!
Hello, I am LaToya Raphael
and I have two children. A friend of mine hired a nanny and while she never
had to care for the baby, and it was easy, it turned out being hard to
deal with. My friend Michelle was black and when her child grew up, it
was white because of the process of buying the nanny with the maid. This
happened many times and it seems to only produce white babies to black
parents. Since we live in an upscale neighborhood, now many of the parents
have live-in nannies. Though we still have maids, these nannies each have
ten cooking points, and they serve all meals and eat at their private table
in the kitchen. Whenever a baby is born, they take care of them and do
shopping for the house. They also wear a black dress uniform. We found
this would be a healthy alternative to having these helpers in the house
and naturally born children from their parents instead of bought from a
service. Our nanny even occupancies us on vacations and helps our children
buy clothes and talks to them when their social levels are down and there
are no friends to call. Hiring a nanny is weird and one time she even showed
up invisible which was weird. If you need anything else, please contact
us in Beverly Sims, the neighborhood of the rich.
Wife of Mayor of Beverly